Five tips backed by research to ease the transition back to school
The end of summer brings mixed feelings for both parents and children. They are sad that the freedom of summer is over, but also excited and nervous about the start of a new school year. Kids and parents alike are feeling a sense of sadness that the freedom of summer is over and excitement and nervousness for the start of the new school year.
Tips for a smooth transition
It can be a hard transition for everyone, but here are some ideas to help make the process go more smoothly.
Create structure and schedule
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Most of us like to know ahead of time what our work/school day will look like. Children feel more confident and secure when they know what to expect. Create a routine for your child’s school day so that he or she can mentally and physically prepare themselves for the day. You can put a calendar on their phones for older kids. Test run
Most school offer a back to school or tour day. You should make sure that your children have the opportunity to take part in these activities so they become familiar with the school. Plan a drop off and pick up spot if you’re driving them. Sleep habits
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Most children’s sleep schedules are thrown off in the summer. Sleeping in and later bedtimes might be a good idea when the school year is over, but they can cause havoc as soon as school begins. Most adolescents sleep less than 8-10 hours a night. It can be detrimental to change sleep schedules at weekends. Sleep deficits cannot be corrected by sleeping later or waking later. These sleep deficits can lead to lower academic performance and increase risky behaviors.
Rituals of connection
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There are small moments throughout the day that provide opportunities for connecting with your child. These are the rituals that Dr. John Gottman refers to as Rituals for Connection. It could be your morning ritual, the way you say goodbye to others, a note left in a child’s lunchbox, a discussion after school or a time when you walk your dog after dinner. Your child will feel more connected if you create regular, consistent, and intentional time to connect with them. Remember that small moments add up! Small things are often
This idea, taken from successful couples, can be easily translated to parenting. The little things are what make a healthy relationship. Be curious. Your child’s love map will change as well. You can ask them about their views on the world, what they like and dislike, etc. Turn towards your child. As they get older the bids will be less frequent and not so obvious, so it is important to be on the lookout for them!
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Positive perspective: Watch for your child to do something you’re proud of and tell them.
Repair: When a negative interaction occurs, that’s ok! This is a chance to apologize to your child and accept responsibility for what you did. Create new family rituals and create memories with your kids during this time. Self-care is important at this time. It is vital that you take care of yourself and your mental and physical health. This will help to instill healthy habits in your child. You can use tools such as meditation, mindfulness and walking to reduce stress. This will contribute to your overall well-being.
